Yesterday my bridal dress was picked out and I took it home. I was very happy with the price and thus it was being a store sample, I got it for much cheaper than a discount rate. I am allthough a little nervous to wear the dress as it's a romantic theme but again, it’s only that day I can pull off a dress like that. I could be happy in jeans and a t-shirt! Smile.
My ring came yesterday as my fiancé surprised me with it. It was my dream ring. It’s an eternity band with a channel setting so it is smooth and easy to wear without it catching on to anything, very thin and it sparkles beautifully. I only plan to wear the band and nothing else with it. He got it for a great price and I am proud of him.
I came to work today with my ring. I have it on for one day to make sure it's not too big and that might need to be resized, then my fiancé will hide it until the ceremony.
My co-workers are nice but until now, they looked at me like "Is that ring the best you can do?" and "What solitaire ring am I planning to wear with that?" I work for a high tech engineering worldwide company where engineers are paid very well. I did not choose an excessively rich man to marry and "more money, bigger things the better" is not in my mind of thoughts. The co-workers compete for the biggest rock... I am not joking; everyone around me has at least 3 carats or bigger diamond on their engagement ring alone.
Personally I would just be as happy without the ring because I am in love with a good man. My life is good with his influences and his very warm and compassionate side.
Now I am having second thoughts about inviting a couple co-workers to my wedding as I feel judge or criticized by them. Funny how the one who criticized me the most is the one that had to demand a ring from her bf of 4 years or she would leave.
I am happy on the inside and it seems to irritate the heck out of my co-workers that I am content with the little things I have. (Actually Huge things to me personally) Honestly, I feel spoiled with the things I have and the opportunity to have a nice wedding on a low budget.
I have to be thick-skinned at work but it's so hard not to be able to share my Joy.
Silent Joy
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Congratulations to you and I know you'll have a wonderful life together!
February 22nd, 2007 at 04:01 pm 1172160087
It's so refreshing to see women who don't care for the big rock thing. My ex mother-in-law was like your co-workers, and I couldn't understand that. My ex didn't seem to care at first either, but eventually had to get her ring "upgraded". Again, I didn't understand it, but Ialways figured that just about every woman would be like this....
Also, since it IS your wedding, you DON'T have to invite anyone you don't want. Maybe it's guy logic, but if I didn't like someone, I just wouldn't invite them to anything. Simple as that. That's not an advice or anything, just how I feel about people who are going to give you a hard time anyways.
Oh, and one last thing: Please don't even worry about wearing a fancy wedding dress! Live a little, sweetie. It's your day!
February 25th, 2007 at 02:06 pm 1172412388
First you must practice with me your most stony face and a swift neck turn to stare them right in the eyes long and hard and now with the long and derisive 'eat dirt and die' look to be reserved for whatever 'idgit' is giving you grief over your ring.
Now, for further advice I'd give you if you were my own child I want you to look down at your foot, see that round thing on the back called a heel? Turn on it and walk away from the fool(s).
See, now doesn't that feel better?
Oh my! Whatever in the world does a ring have to do with a happy marriage?? Love your man and don't worry your pretty head over the jackals back at the office!
Twentyfour years later I'm still happy w/my plain gold band! and I do have a 'rock' or ten that I inherited from my Gran that I sometimes wear with it when "I" feel like it. Most days I'm a jeans & T girl myself.
I'm with BA, wear the dress and revel in your special day and invite only those who will soar with you on your wings of joy!!
How boring life would be if everyone was the same.
March 1st, 2007 at 06:58 pm 1172775494
As far as my dress and getting all prettied up on my wedding day, I am more excited about it but find that I have to build up my confidence level so I can enjoy it without worry or nervousness... As some of you pointed out, life is just too short!
I decided to cut down on some co-workers invite. It’s about joy and having people share joy on my wedding day but boy does wedding planning really make me rethink and evaluate people around me and see them as they really are.
Unfortunately, some out of state family/ step families somehow found out about my wedding and apparently invited themselves to the wedding. How I know? They called up my parents saying they booked a hotel and flights already!!!!! They were never invited to begin with!! yikes....